First, I believe it is so important to consider the qualities of the person you are in a relationship with which led you to care so much about him or her in the first place. Compare the person you fell in love with to the person you are currently with. Have things changed? If so, what are the changes that have occurred which led to the current predicament? Successfully examining your relationship requires a certain level of self-appraisal and reflection. It may or may not come as a surprise to you that you both share a certain level of culpability. This self-examination may help you identify the core of the problem and thereby elucidate the solution.
Having a heartfelt conversation can be difficult with a partner in a strained relationship. Nevertheless, it is important in helping to re-establish the bond that existed before the problems began. Keeping lines of communications open between the two of you is an absolute necessity. Avoiding or stopping the communication leaves little hope to salvage the relationship, as the two of you will begin to drift further apart from one another.
Another important consideration to keep in mind as you navigate engaging with your spouse after having an argument is to allow sufficient time for tempers and feeling to settle down first. Be sure to express your position but try to consider your partner’s position as well. Listening is just as important as speaking at this point. The ultimate goal is to reach a point where ideas and feelings are once again being shared openly. Reaching this point will facilitate and build trust between the two of you again.
Always remember that the two of you must remain genuine and sincere during this approach. Any type of deception will most certainly hurt the healing process and the relationship will continue to decline. If things simply can't be worked out, then perhaps it is time for an intervention. Counselors are trained professionals who act as a third party to help couples discover not only their problems but also their strengths. It is the bonds we share that make our personal relationships all the more precious. So committing ourselves to working through difficult times can ultimately re-establish a relationship and the bond between partners will be stronger moving forward.