Couples creating new traditions during the holidays 2

Last week we touched upon the idea of creating some new traditions for the holidays that will bring you closer together as a couple. These new traditions can give you the opportunity, on a yearly basis, to do something together that deepens your commitment to each other and also your understanding of one another. Today we’ll expand on that theme by looking at some specific ways that you can create these traditions and what results that you can expect if you take our advice and use them.

If you can afford it an excellent tradition would be to travel to a place that both of you enjoy very much.  It could be right around the corner or on the other side of the globe but, if you go there once a year, the memories and the shared experiences will help you to form a powerful bond with each other. The sights, sounds, smells and other tactile experiences shared during this yearly holiday getaway can form deep-rooted memories and feelings that will sustain you during the year when, for one reason or another, you’re not getting along very well.  Looking forward to going again can also have a calming influence on both of you during tough times.

Volunteering together is a powerful, altruistic and highly rewarding activity that you can turn into a holiday tradition with ease.  During the holidays all sorts of organizations need volunteers and, working together towards a common goal, you’ll see things in your mate that you might not have noticed (or appreciated) during the year. The sense of satisfaction that volunteering can bring and the pride that it can give you in yourself and your spouse make this tradition one of our favorites.

Normally there is one person that cooks at holiday time but, if you’d like to do something that can strengthen your relationship and can be a lot of fun too, cooking the holiday meal together is a great idea and makes a wonderful tradition.  The fact is, if you can both get along in the kitchen without wanting to stuff the other in the oven you’re doing great!  Food can cue powerful emotions because of all the senses that it excites like the sense of smell and taste.  Adding touch to that, and doing it together, is very satisfying and can bring you closer together like few other activities can.

And there you have them.  Some wonderful new tradition ideas that will bring you closer, create lasting memories and give you the strength to make it through the rest of the year.  Use them, change them or make some of your own but most of all do something. Like any tradition there is always a first time so make this the year that you start one of your own favorites. Happy Holidays!

Couples creating new traditions during the holidays

The holidays, as much as they are supposed to be about giving and opening your hearts, can be a very difficult time if you’re a couple that is having marital problems. If you’re marriage is falling apart adding a bunch of family to the mix can be like pouring gasoline on a fire and some of the fun traditions like decorating the house and putting up the tree can seem more like a trip to the dentist to have a tooth pulled.

The fact is, however, that holiday traditions are the very fabric that binds us together and reminds us that we’re not alone on this sometimes harsh planet we call home.  If you and your spouse are having trouble but are committed to getting through your problems and making your marriage stronger a wonderful and powerful idea is to start some new traditions of your very own.

These can be very simple or very involved but the key is to do something that only the 2 of you do together. It doesn’t have to be just for Christmas or Hanukkah either but can be done for Thanksgiving, the 4th of July and even Groundhog Day if you so desire. Whatever day it is or whatever time of year these new traditions will be something that you can look forward to together, a special time or place or activity that only the 2 of you share.

For example going to a movie for New Year’s Eve could be your new tradition. Away from the crowds and the noise and the booze the 2 of you could snuggle together in a movie theatre and lose yourselves in whatever the newest flick is that year. Trust me you’ll probably have the entire theater to yourself.

Going away to a special place alone for a few days is a great tradition, especially if it’s a place you both love.  The memories that you make every year and the knowledge that this time, this place, is ‘yours’ can be a very powerful way to repair any damage that was done during the year and shore up your marriage for the coming year.

It doesn’t matter what it is that you do or where you do it.  What matters is that you build something together that, over time, brings you closer together. That’s really what a tradition is all about.  Just as Thanksgiving brings all Americans together once a year to give thanks your new ‘couple traditions’ will remind you of what brought you together in the first place and give you a foundation that will stabilize your relationship as the years go by.